I call my husband 348 times a day, maybe more! Sometimes the calls are just to ask what he is doing or where did he put the calculator or why didn't he wear the baju I had ironed the night before or to just say hi! I would make up any reasons just to hear his voice really. However, as he is more engrossed with his work, the kids and I have been put aside for countless of times. "...I can't talk now now, I gotta run. "...I have got so much work to do, have to go now.", "...I have a class going, talk to you later." Why do I constantly need to call him, you may ask, well it's because he is never home. A lot of stuff which still require the attention of a husband and a father and his absence does affect the entire family. I may sound ridiculous to many as he had a valid good reason to hush me as he had urgent office work to attend to. But I am only reacting this way as an act of retaliation!
It's ok for the employer to call him to work during his off days, and he dutifully leaves the family to attend to the call, it's alright to go to the office during the weekends to finish the last minute work given to him, it's acceptable to pull him out of the house when he was just about to bond with the kids on a Sunday, it's expected for him not to be able to attend any family gatherings which fall on public holidays due to the mounting workload ?
A thought I always remind him on a regular basis "...if anything were to happen to you, they will easily find a replacement in two weeks time, case settled and forgotten! But we would never ever possibly find someone who could take your place!"
All I'm asking is to observe his rights to be with his family on weekends and public holidays and in turn I will leave him alone with his work at the office. I believe that's fair enough.
Guess where did we go during the last long school holidays and this chinese new year holidays? ...............yes, Nowhere. How are you going to explain that to the kids?
It's all about tit for tat now folks.
Ps. I am so gonna get into trouble with this post, there will be a lot of sindir2 as well as the look from people, but you know what, I'm not creating stories just to post them here, I am relating them. Therefore, my conscience is clear.
Just in the mood for this song now, he he he. It is not directed to my husband in any way. The tempo of this song is simply liberating, hence the choice. Come on girls sing with me!
And Naeim, this one's for you. Thanks for reminding me of this song.
First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me
Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
you think I'd crumble
you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive
Only the Lord could give me strength
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
Now I hold my head up high
and you see me
I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me